There are so many hate blogs out there, so I decided to even out the universe with a little love.
People are so hard on Jill Zarin just because her friendship with Bethenny ended. We loved both Jill and Bethenny when they were friends, so I don’t see why we can’t continue to love them both now that they aren’t friends anymore.
What did Jill really do that was so horrible? Let’s try to put things into perspective. She was mad at Bethenny because Bethenny didn’t call her when Bobby was in the hospital. Yes, Jill didn’t go out of her way to tell Bethenny about the extent of Bobby’s illness, but Bethenny should have known. As a friend, she should call Jill every single day and find out what’s going on in her life. After she had gone some time without hearing from Jill, she should have called, emailed, twittered, and facebooked her to find out what was going on. For all she knows Jill could have been dead. Dead! But did she care? No. All Bethenny did was send a simple little email. You know who else sends emails? The mail man. A dear friend like Jill deserved more than that. And when Jill didn’t respond to Bethenny’s email, she should have known that Jill was upset and dropped everything to find out why her friend didn’t reply to her. For Bethenny to get so preoccupied with her business and new relationship to the point that she didn’t even notice an unanswered email just proves what a horrible friend she is. Sure, Jill could have emailed her back, but she was upset, and what clearer way to let your best friend know you’re upset than to not return an email? I’m sure Jill was checking her email multiple times a day for messages from Bethenny, because that’s the kind of friend she is. Look how long she kept Bethenny’s voice mail for. I’m sure Bethenny listened to Jill’s messages and deleted them right away, just like they were garbage.
You must also keep in mind that Bethenny owes the success of her business to her fame, and she owes her fame to Jill. If Jill hadn’t asked Bethenny to be on Housewives she would have never gotten so popular and then been given her own show. Obviously since Jill is responsible for Bethenny’s fame and therefore the creation of her show, it’s only fair that the show be focused on her and Jill’s friendship. To base the show around her own life was selfish and a slap in the face to Jill, the woman who is solely responsible for everything Bethenny has. In fact, it could be said that if Jill hadn’t included B in Housewives she would still be struggling to pay her rent and she would have been sitting home eating canned beans instead of partying at the club the night she met Jason. If she had never met Jason she would have never had Bryn. So one could logically conclude that Bethenny owes the birth of her daughter to Jill since Jill is the one who set all these events in motion. The least she could have done is name her daughter after Jill, but she didn’t. She didn’t even give her “Jill” as a middle name. That is absolutely unforgivable.
I know, I know, you are all going to say that Bethenny tried to make up with Jill and repair the friendship. And I will admit, she did try… sorta. I mean, she called her what, one or two times? Then ambushed her at Ramona’s when she was totally caught off guard and un prepared. If she had really loved Jill as much as she claimed, then how come she didn’t try harder? How come she didn’t make an appointment with Jill so she had time to prepare and gather her thoughts and her notes? How come she gave up on the friendship so easily? Just because Jill said “we’re done”? Oh please, so what? People say things like that all the time. It doesn’t mean anything. The other day at dinner I said “I’m done.” Does that mean I’m never going to eat again? Geeze. People take things so seriously. The fact that Bethenny didn’t continue begging Jill to be her friend is proof that she never really cared about her in the first place. Jill is an amazing person. And when Jill decided that she wanted to be friends again, Bethenny should have jumped at the chance. But she didn’t jump. She didn’t even get up from her pedicure to thank Jill for chartering a private jet and going so far out of her way to come forgive her. If Bethenny were a true friend, she would have waited until the end of time for Jill to come back into her life. What kind of person can just cut people out of their lives like that? Jill only cuts people out temporarily, but Bethenny cuts them out permanently.
People also have a problem with the way Jill treated Alex. But hello, Alex is from Brooklyn! That barely even counts as New York City. It’s practically in a different state. So the fact that Alex was even included in the show in the first place is just unfair to women like Jill who pay the extra money to live in the most fabulous place on earth. But Jill, being the saint that she is, did try to be nice to Alex. Remember when she hooked her up with an interview at a fancy private school? That was so kind and generous. And how does Alex repay her? By delivering an evil message like a Mafia hitman. Alex is clearly ungrateful and unappreciative of Jill’s friendship. I mean, Jill even traveled all the way to Brooklyn to visit Alex’s home. She could have been mugged or even assaulted! She risked her health and safety to reach out to Alex, and Alex turned on her. Why? Because Jill made fun of her kids and her husband? So what! It was all in good fun. Remember how Jill laughed about them? That’s because it was all a joke and not meant to be taken seriously. It’s not Jill’s fault that Alex can’t take a little joke at her family’s expense. Besides, Alex is just a farm girl from Kansas. She can’t really expect to receive the same level of respect given to Countesses and former models now can she? Clearly not. And I think we are all forgetting that Jill runs with a fabulous circle of people, and including someone from Brooklyn would cause her circle of friends to become less fabulous. Jill has a whole circle of people to think about here. Once again she proves how selfless she is, always thinking about others.
And lets not forget about the other castmates. Look how kind Jill is to the mentally disturbed Kelly Bensimon. Only a true saint could put up with a woman like that. Instead of attacking her the way Bethenny did, Jill took her under her wing and tried to help her out by telling her what to say, how to act, and who to be friends with.
Jill also continues to be friends with Ramona despite the fact that she is clearly not a good friend to Jill. Ramona didn’t bother to tell Jill when Bethenny’s dad died, when Jill should have been the first person she called when she found out. She also didn’t give her a free piece of jewelry at her yacht party. Jill gets $12,000 purses given to her for free, yet her supposed friend Ramona couldn’t even give her a lousy necklace? And let’s not forget how Ramona kicked her off Scary Island when she had come to surprise everyone. The fact that Jill is still friends with Ramona shows what a capacity she has for forgiveness.
Jill also has an amazing work ethic. While some other Housewives like LuAnn seem to have forgotten all about their books, Jill continues to advertise her book at every opportunity. She never gives up and I think her “never quit” attitude should be applauded.
Jill is also a strong supporter of No Hate, and anti-bullying campaigns. And she doesn’t just tweet about it like everyone else does. She takes action. She got all her followers together in an effort to track down and expose online bullies and get them fired from their jobs! Who else takes the extra step and goes the extra mile like this? Not Bethenny, I’ll tell you that right now.
So for all of you Jill haters out there, I urge you to take another look at the situation and try to see it from my perspective. I cannot wait until season 4 so that Jill has a chance to show more of the person she really is and you can all begin to love her just as much as I do. 😉