Phaedra thinks women need to be proud of their accomplishments.
The underlying theme of tonight’s episode is getting and having exactly what you want (really? I thought the theme was “Fakedra is ridiculous”). Although each of us want vastly different things, we all share the common desire of wanting to improve ourselves and to be better women. (except Fakedra, she thinks she’s perfect already) Sheree wants a new relationship, while NeNe wants to change her physical appearance. Kandi wants a great album and to be paid for her work. Kim wants to be a successful artist. While I want a lot of things, tonight’s focus is on my desire to have an extraordinary (I guess that’s one way of putting it) baby shower as well as a husband who doesn’t have children so that we can experience parenthood together for the first time. (I thought it was so you didn’t have to deal with baby mamma drama and annoying kids who aren’t yours.)
Despite the critical nature of the show, we must ask: Why do we criticize each other when we all want the same thing (I don’t know Fakedra, why do you criticize other people every time you open you mouth?)— to be better? (I thought it was because you were jealous and unhappy, but whatever) Is it wrong to value yourself or enhance your worth, whether it be through plastic surgery, education, or hard work? (Value and enhance yourself – no. Constantly tell everyone how superior you are to them – yes) I hope not. Because if you don’t value yourself and believe in your ability, who will? If you work hard you should be proud of your accomplishments. (maybe you should look up the definition of “pride”, and then go look up the definition of “bragging”.)
I will never be ashamed of my tenacity and commitment to education, (it’s not your commitment to education you should be ashamed of) because I realize people fought and died so that I would have the opportunity to go to high school, attend college, and graduate from law school. (Just can’t resist saying “law school” as many times as possible, huh?) My journey wasn’t easy, but I had a vision and was willing to work hard for it. Unfortunately, as this episode shows, when women speak of their accomplishments they are viewed as arrogant (<– exactly what you are) or “their own cheerleader.” Interestingly enough, I was a cheerleader in high school (why am I not surprised?) (a spunky spitfire, if I may say so myself), so it was comical to hear that statement. (glad you found it as humorous as the rest of us did) Indeed we should all be our own biggest cheerleaders. Ironically, when men speak of their accomplishments they are characterized as being confident. Why are standards different for women? (Omg she is not seriously trying to turn this into a sex issue now is she?) I went to school for 20 years and maintained a job throughout my undergraduate and law school matriculation. (which just proves that some people cannot be cured of their ignorance no matter how much education they receive) No one gave me any handouts, extra help, or preferential treatment. Hence, I will never be ashamed of my degrees — I earned them. Slogans like, “Mission accomplished,” “dreams realized,” “Girl power and sisterhood,” will never be truthful as long as we continue to be catty and critical of each other. (and no one is more catty or critical of other women than Fakedra.)
Anyone else find it hilarious that every week Fakedra’s blogs are basically condemning everything she did on the show, except she twists it to make it seem like she is the innocent one?
FAKEdra really lived up to her name in this episode. She just gets worse and worse. I love it. Thanks for the material Fakedra!