Episode 3 Follow Up
Phaedra clarifies her statements on this week’s episode.
I have received numerous comments (she means hate mail) about the remarks that I made on the episode that aired on Monday, October 18, 2010. I feel the need to respond to those comments, because I believe my remarks were generally misunderstood (There wasn’t much room for interpretation, I think we all understood perfectly) and are being used to portray me as someone I am not. (I think she is the only person trying to portray herself as something she’s not) I am not a racist. My heart has always been open to people of all races, ethnicities, and walks of life. (As long as they’re not can eating white folk) If that were not the case, I would not have fallen in love with (did she look “in love” to anyone?) and married a man who is biracial and was raised by a white woman (who she clearly dislikes and considers a bad mother). The reality is that we live in a society where matters of race are not discussed honestly or openly for fear of being labeled a racist. And that really needs to change if we’re going to move forward in any meaningful way (and the best way to move forward is by perpetuating ridiculous stereotypes) as a melting pot of ideas, viewpoints, and experiences. While I do regret any discomfort or offense that my comments may have caused, I believe it is important that we use opportunities like this to create forums for dialogue and growth, not for personal attacks. (If this is the best defense she can come up with, I feel bad for whoever has to go to trial with her as their lawyer.)
Here’s my take on the whole thing: I don’t really think Fakedra is a racist. I think she hates her mother-in-law, and thought it would be clever to insult her in some back handed “it’s not her fault because she’s white and doesn’t know any better” sort of way rather than to come right out and say that she doesn’t like her or the fact that she fed her kid canned food while refusing to beat him which caused him to grow up to be a criminal. I also think it’s possible that Fakedra really does believe that since Apollo’s white mom fed him canned food and her mother didn’t, that means all white kids eat canned food and all black kids eat home cooked food. In which case I still don’t think that makes her racist, just dumber than the box of rocks that Kelly is dumber than. (I stole that from someone, I can’t remember who). I also think Fakedra tries way too hard to prove how classy and sophisticated she is. What’s the line about protesting too much?
Fakedra may not be racist, but she’s still on my shit list.